Are you one of the people‘waiting’ for life to happen? Are you ignoring friends or family because you don’t have enough time for them?
If you are, then you could also become one of the people who lose a family member and can never spend another minute with them, and you live with the regret for the rest of your life. Or one of those people who are waiting for someone else to change their life because they think if this happens than they will definitely be happy and they promise to start living life.
Time and happiness is two things most people don’t have enough of, but the harsh reality is…. There will never be enough time, and happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey!
For the people who understand this, they use their time to do everything they love, and each moment of their lives is full of smiles and laughter.
Let’s start with time.
Time rules society. There are deadlines on projects at work, deadlines you give yourself in which you have to buy a house, be married, have children, retire! All these time constraints add stress to your life, forcing you to try and spend your time effectively, prioritising tasks by what you think is most important, and usually work is put on the top of the never-ending to do list.
You will notice that the things other people want from you are what you allocate the most time and energy to, and the things you want for yourself are pushed to the part of the list you’ll get to later.
When others control your time, it means you will never have enough time, because somebody will always want something more from you, and your own goals will continue to get pushed to the back, which leaves you feeling exhausted, stressed and unhappy.
This is where happiness steps in.
There are reasons why we have become such a consumer-driven society. We are lead to believe that if we buy this, we will be happy! If you have a better tv, a bigger house, it’s no longer free steak knives from the company, it’s happiness with a guarantee… pity it lasts for five minutes.
We get home with our latest purchases, and after a short-lived happy state, we start to feel remorse, guilt followed by stress because we realise we now need money to pay for the new stuff, which means more time spent at work trying to climb your way out of a self dug whole of debt. So our short-lived happiness, has ultimately lead to less time to enjoy the thing that apparently brought a smile to your face.
Now that you can see how time effects happiness, and happiness effects time, what do you think you need to do to change to stop waiting for life to happen and actually live it?
You can be one of the few people in the world who spend everyday doing a job they love, who go home to a family they have dinner with. It’s not rocket science, it’s not a magic time management system, it comes down to understanding who you are.
Find out who you are, what you love to do, what your strengths and weaknesses are. Understand as much as you can about the person you are and the person you want to become, and what is most important to you. Remember this is about you, nobody else.
Once you spend your time doing the things you love doing, you will automatically experience happiness on a daily basis. Happiness will no longer be something you are chasing, it will be something you experience, and your life will be fulfilled!